I have a new coach in my life. I say new, but I met and have been following her for over 3 years. I’ve called her one of my inspirations and advisors and she had unknowingly become my mentor. And now she’s mine. My person to call on, to help with a particular part of my business that I have currently exhausted my own skills in and that I need help to expand. I knew that it was the right time. And even though I had been trying to reach her for this or for that consistently, every 3 months it was scheduled on my calendar,then, after 2 years, I have a yes. And funny enough, the timing is nothing short of serendipitous.

Our first session was nothing like I planned. I came prepared with my 3, 6 and 12 month goals, my numbers, my projections………. Yeah, she wasn’t having none of that. That wasn’t her first session plan.

Her plan was to get to the root of my calling. To deeply understand my passions. To see clearly what my why is and to talk to me about the anchor, the weight that was holding me down spiritually.

In the first 5 minutes, I think we were both crying and sharing and connecting and not one time, was the word “business” used. I’ve had coaches before in real estate, and one shortly after founding Women CEO Project, but I learned quickly, that this coach, this interaction that we will have over the next 3 months, this teacher, this woman would not let me spend our sessions focusing on my massive goals, or the numbers, or the database. Her sessions could only be effective after I was bare, vulnerable, open, sharing, honest, and “coachable”.

Then I said it. I strung together that group of words that we should not say because it almost never quite applies. I said, but “ I don’t feel like I’m moving fast enough”……

You would have thought the earth had shifted just a bit and the phone was dead silent. The next words my coach said….. “ How dare you? How dare you question God and his timing. How dare you not be grateful for the space that you are in? All of the things that you have done, have lead up to this moment. Each and every moment is precious. Every phase in your business, in your life, is planned by a higher calling. Each phase and lesson makes you stronger, more educated, less fearful, and more POWERFUL”…..

She then proceeded to read, out loud, each and every thing that I had accomplished since the formation of Women CEO Project. I must admit, in the middle of her reading, I felt so embarrassed, each minute that passed, and she continued to read, the more, and more I realized that I had be so ungrateful. It didn’t even occur to me how many lives have been affected or changed even in just the last 2 months with the Women of Power Virtual Summit, the Creator’s Mastermind, the Creator’s Blueprint, now, the new Podcast. I’ve been working like a mad woman, but never pausing to give myself even a small pat on the back. I’m always checking the to do list like…….sh*t, this thing is not moving.

I’ve been getting your emails, your feedback, and your testimonials. I did not take a pause or a breath and just be thankful that some of you, many of you, are experiencing new highs, more options, a bigger voice, less fear, and more courage. I focused more on the length of the list in front of me, instead of the mountains I’ve moved behind me. In just a few minutes, she helped me to recognize that Women CEO Project is moving right on time, we are where we need to be, and all of you are with us.

I share this session, my lesson with you, because I’ve heard many of you say that you feel like you aren’t moving or things aren’t working. It doesn’t feel like you’re progressing. You take one step forward and two steps back……

We can ALL be so quick to kick our own butts that we don’t give ourselves a chance to breathe, create and innovate without feeling ass whipped all the time.

Our biggest problem, is measuring ourselves with the same stick used to measure our competition. We don’t know, nor will we ever, the total inner workings of another company or the businesses we strive to become like. We have no idea of their beginnings, their struggles, personal or otherwise, or at any point if their hard work was graced with a bit of luck.

We don’t know. We are judging them and ourselves by comparison, as they are now. This is not right. We only hinder ourselves when we do this and somehow our own mini milestones become invisible to us. 

We must run our own race. Discover and strengthen our own strong points. We have so much of our own uniqueness to share with the world but we get so caught up trying to keep up, copy, recreate someone else’s thoughts when we should be creating our own.

All of the opportunities at our fingertips and all of the things we have already accomplished gives us, all of us, many things to be grateful for. I’m sure I’ll be sharing my lessons with you over the next few months, some through the blog, some through our private consulting sessions.  But for today, the lesson that I can leave you with, is to pause, to reflect, not to focus on how much further you have to go, how much road is left, or what you don’t have, but to always be present in the now, enjoy each day, celebrate all accomplishments, even the small ones. Simply put, lesson one is to be …..grateful.

Got a lesson for me, share it below in the comments so we can all learn together. 

And if you’re looking for a consultant to help you focus on strategy, innovation and creation, we can chat, get the juices flowing and see if your goals are a match for my skills. I have 3 consulting options available for you here.